My best friend’s wedding
Every time I return to Europe, I find myself lying in bed my
first morning and enjoying the ambience. The sun rises earlier here in the
summers, so there’s plenty of light coming in the window as I awaken. Sheer
curtains cover the open, screenless window, and light traffic noise wafts in.
There is something so bright and fresh about early mornings in European summer.
The atmosphere relaxes me.
Me and Stefanie. Photo by Carl Kaiser. |
I am now in Mühlhausen, Germany, the first stop on
what will be a whirlwind European work/personal trip. If you’ve never heard of
Mühlhausen,
you’re not alone. It’s a small town in the center of Germany, not really
notable for anything except for being the birthplace of Johann Röbling,
the architect behind the Brooklyn Bridge. But Mühlhausen is significant to me:
it is the hometown of my best friend, Stefanie.
The bride and groom emerging from the city hall. |
I first visited Mühlhausen in 2011, shortly after
meeting Steffi. We were both living in Bremerhaven, and she invited me for a
weekend at her parents’ house. I remember the Medieval city wall and the
extensive Tudor style architecture. I remember the giant Gothic cathedral in
the center of town. But mostly I remember feeling welcomed, appreciated, and embraced. I’m the only German-speaking friend Stefanie has ever brought home, and
my fluency alone was enough to make her parents adore me.
This weekend, I returned to Mühlhausen to witness my best
friend marry the love of her life. I am so ridiculously happy for the both of
them, and it was more than worth the transoceanic flight to be there.
Bride and groom sawing the log (while the bride's father holds it in place). Photo by Carl Kaiser. |
The ceremony was at Mühlhausen’s Rathaus (city hall), in the
heart of the old city. We entered through an arched doorway and climbed a dark
staircase to enter a large, domed hall with paintings of Renaissance-era mayors
on the walls. Stefanie and André made their way to the front, where
they sat sandwiched between their designated witnesses, facing the officiant.
For all the time I’ve spent in this country, I’ve never attended a German
wedding before, so I was curious how much it would resemble an American
ceremony. There were vows, rings, and a “you may kiss the bride,” but one thing
did catch me off-guard: when the officiant announced the bride and groom, she
identified them each by full name, birth date, birthplace, and current address.
It was a lot of personal information said aloud. I was reminded of my church
back in Bremerhaven, where the pastor would announce deaths in the congregation
by name and address – I guess Germans just identify each other by place of
residence.
With new friends at the wedding |
The other major difference was a fun one: as soon as we arrived
at the reception, we found a log, about a meter long, sitting on a stand with a
two-man saw leaned up against it. It’s tradition in Thüringen for newly-married
couples to cut through a log together as a symbol of partnership. I must admit,
it was quite amusing to watch the bride and groom don smocks over their nice
clothes and set to work with a saw. They made it through in just a few minutes,
and then the party began!
Stefanie is a fellow traveling scientist who’s actually
lived in more countries than me. Friends came from far and wide to attend the
wedding, and I was again reminded how much science is an international
endeavor. I got to meet her colleagues from Canada, France, and the
Netherlands, and of course re-connect with her German parents. It was an
exercise in community and just a really awesome day.
Congratulations, Stefanie and André!
hallo liebe Kirsten.
ReplyDeletehier ist der Papa von Stefanie .mit hilfe von Stefanie und Andre bin ich auf deinen Blog gestossen .Ich hoffe Dir und Karl geht es gut .Die Bilder von der Hochzeit sind wunderbar .Danke dasst Du sie ins Netz Gestellt hast. sei nicht böse dass ich in deutsch schreibe aber du weisst es ja . seid herzlichst gegrüsst und gedrückt aus Mühlhausen / Thüringen Mutti Conny und Papa Detlef
Hallo Detlef! Wie schön von Dir zu hören! Du bist jederzeit willkommen, auf Deutsch bei meinem Blog zu schreiben. Ich freue mich, dass die Fotos Dir gefallen. Liebe Grüße und alles bestens an Dir und Connie
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